Pet loss: How to cope when your heart is broken

If you’ve ever loved and lost a pet, you know how heart-wrenching it is. That’s because for many of us, a pet is so much more than “just a dog” or “just a cat.” They’re a member of our family — a cherished companion with whom we share a special bond of unconditional love.

When a beloved pet dies, the grief we experience can feel overwhelming. Here are some tips to help you — or someone you know — cope with the loss.

Honor your feelings.

Keep in mind that some people who’ve never had a pet may not understand what you’re going through. Well-intentioned advice suggesting, “You’re taking it too hard,” or “It’s time to move on,” can make you feel worse. Just know that the grief you’re experiencing is real.

Also know that it’s okay to cry — or not cry. To laugh as you recall some of your pet’s funny antics. To feel moments of joy and gratitude for the time you had together. At times, you might even feel a sense of guilt or anger. All of these emotions are normal, so be patient with yourself.

Create a lasting legacy.

Preparing a memorial in honor of your pet can bring comfort in the midst of grief. Put together a photo album or scrapbook, create a living memorial by planting a tree, or, if your pet is cremated, keep the ashes in a beautiful urn. Many people also find comfort in holding a pet memorial service. What matters most is that you honor your pet in a way that feels right for you and your family.

Find support from others who have lost pets.

Talking with someone else who has experienced the loss of a pet can bring comfort as you grieve. If you don’t know of anyone — and seeking out the support of others sounds like something you’d like to do — check with your veterinarian or your local Humane Society for ideas.

If you’re active on social media, there are a number of online pet loss grief support groups available. Before you join, take time to research and make sure you’re comfortable with the types of posts and content being shared by the group.

Take care of yourself.

The stress of losing a pet can drain you emotionally and physically. To help you cope during this difficult time, make sure you eat a healthy diet and get plenty of sleep. At the same time, staying active, maintaining your regular routine, and spending time with people who care about you can help you through the healing process.

Try to find new meaning and joy in life.

A pet can provide a sense of emotional support and purpose in life. To help fill the painful void after a loss, consider picking up a hobby, taking a class, or volunteering at an animal shelter or for a rescue organization. You might even think about adopting another pet — when the time feels right.

Seek professional help if you need it.

For some people, sorrow and grief can be persistent — to the point that these feelings interfere with their ability to function. If you feel this way after the loss of your pet, talk with your doctor or health care provider.

Our pets can be an incredible source of joy and love, and it’s normal to feel sorrow when we lose them. If you’re grieving the loss of a cherished pet, remember to give yourself plenty of time to heal, and take comfort in knowing you’re not alone.